My friend just found out she was pregnant and now suddenly she is having a shotgun wedding. Have we really not come that far in society to automatically get married because of a pregnancy? I'm not saying they are not happy, but why the pressure to get married immediately? Will there be more of a chance to work it out for legal purposes? What is more detrimental to a child, having to split up their lives if things don't work out or knowing that they're parents weren't married immediately after they were conceived? I understand that people say for religious purposes but we won't even go there because there is way too much to say there.
I know someone else who is married, has a kid, a stable job and doesn't at all seem happy about any of it! She loves her kid, but maybe she didn't want to follow the "blueprint" of life. You know, the graduate, go to college, meet a nice boy, get married, get a "real" job and have kids. Why not graduate, figure out who you are, explore the world a little and then decide what the next step is. What's so fun about a life that is preplanned? What about her life? Is she now supposed to just deal with what she has and be unhappy forever? When can she let out what she has been pushing down her whole life? Never?
I guess I'm glad I'm different. I did graduate. I did go to college. I met a girl instead of a boy. I met a few more girls. I did date a few guys. I explored who I was and I'm not done yet. It's not even legal for me to marry my girlfriend and I really can't really worry right now about getting pregnant. : )
Why do people hide what they are truly feeling? Social pressure? Family? Why does everything have to be so "perfect" even though we all know it doesn't exist?
